People overstate the importance of a couple being "right for each other".
No couple is fundamentally really right for each other.
Every couple IS right for each other if they work on their middos.
Rav Volbe of Alei Shor fame said that every boy is right for every girl. If they work on their middos they can made a wonderful life for themselves. If they don't, it doesn't matter how right they seemed for each other - there will be fire...
Think about it. Every person has a good side to their personality. Every person. Even middle linebackers who lift heavy weights so that they have the strength to badly injure men wearing a different color uniform on a Sunday afternoon on national television. If a woman does it right she can bring out the best in him. If a man does it right he can turn a shrew into an angel.
Usually. There are exceptions to every rule.
If both people are working hard on themselves and on their marriage they can create something beautiful. If you are reading this you dated your spouse or will date your future spouse. It is not like a guy from Meah Shearim marrying a Dominican giyores named Juanita [now "Chana Sara"] who grew up on 134th and Broadway. That would be quite a challenge. For two people of a similar backgound to have a successful union is a much more likely proposition.
It is a matter of how hard people are working, how self aware they are and how willing they are to grow.
No couple is fundamentally really right for each other.
Every couple IS right for each other if they work on their middos.
Rav Volbe of Alei Shor fame said that every boy is right for every girl. If they work on their middos they can made a wonderful life for themselves. If they don't, it doesn't matter how right they seemed for each other - there will be fire...
Think about it. Every person has a good side to their personality. Every person. Even middle linebackers who lift heavy weights so that they have the strength to badly injure men wearing a different color uniform on a Sunday afternoon on national television. If a woman does it right she can bring out the best in him. If a man does it right he can turn a shrew into an angel.
Usually. There are exceptions to every rule.
If both people are working hard on themselves and on their marriage they can create something beautiful. If you are reading this you dated your spouse or will date your future spouse. It is not like a guy from Meah Shearim marrying a Dominican giyores named Juanita [now "Chana Sara"] who grew up on 134th and Broadway. That would be quite a challenge. For two people of a similar backgound to have a successful union is a much more likely proposition.
It is a matter of how hard people are working, how self aware they are and how willing they are to grow.
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